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Thursday, April 28, 2011

Everyone has a choice

“Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse, who have left the straight paths to walk in dark ways, who delight in doing wrong and rejoice in the perverseness of evil, whose paths are crooked and who are devious in their ways.” (Proverbs 2:12-15, NIV)

Each of us has the ability to choose our daily path, choose wisely!

~David Vittoria

Perhaps time well spent would be reading the bible? Understanding Gods word? Talking with family members? Eating dinner together at the table and visiting about the day’s events?
Perhaps returning to a life that respects others and not quite so focused on one’s self.
What do you think? What matters to you?
Would this simple idea help our families and perhaps positively address the PA issue?

I think so.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Let Grace Season Your Speech!

It is very simple, if we all followed Gods word, there would be no family court system. If we followed this simple subject line, there would be no parental alienation. If we would open our hearts and let God guild our words, thoughts and actions, there would be no family hurt.
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” (Proverbs 17:14, NIV) How will you respond today if someone insults you or speaks rudely to you? Let grace season your speech like salt or pepper flavors food. Refrain from going on the offensive with your words. Be gentle. Let Christ be your perfect guide. Imitate Him in all areas of your life. Let your words be an asset, not a liability as you serve Him

 Like goats on a dam, one wrong step (one cross word) and you fall a long ways...

Friday, April 22, 2011

Mistakes, are they that hard to deal with?

Below is a mailer I get, so you can click on the link and go to their website.
It deals with employees but applies to us all.

Let’s face it. Mistakes occur.  And when they do, there are five basic response options, five different approaches you and your team members can take:
  1. You can ignore it. (The I-Couldn’t-Care-Less Approach)
  2. You can hide it. (The Cover-Up Approach)
  3. You can blame others. (The Deflection Approach)
  4. You can blame circumstances. (The Excuses Approach)
  5. You can admit to it, fix it, and learn from it – accepting any appropriate consequences like an adult.
Care to guess what approach that last one is?  It’s The RESPONSIBLE Approach!
How about "Cowboy up!"

Thursday, April 21, 2011

And the Yearly Harassment from Linda Clark continues.

Last year at tax time Linda mistakenly (nice word for lied) claimed Dakota on her tax returns as well as Colton. But the fact is, her attorney wrote the document and it was stated and agreed upon in open court that Linda would claim Colton and I would claim Dakota for tax reasons. This will give Linda the advantage of using the deduction for 3 or 4 years longer than me. OK, that is fine, I did not protest anything or ask for alternating years…But this is not good enough for Linda as she lied last year when claiming Dakota. This year because I over looked the new child support agreement, Linda will get all the child tax credits even though I pay all the support! I have told you all before to never trust a lawyer and yet I make that mistake over and over in this case. Thank goodness I pay more attention to documents in my job, or I would be fired! I think that I just get blind when it comes to my own family court case. I just don't want to deal with it. Anyway, that is always a mistake and will just cost me more time and money again.
Everyone must understand that my ex wife, the boys mother, did lie last year on her federal tax form (claiming that I was late with a support payment. Documents from the WSSR were necessary to to demonstrate to the IRS that my return was truthful)  If you can blatantly lie on a federal income tax form with such disregard and openness, how can anyone question but what she has willing lied to her attorney, to the court, the community and mostly, to her own sons!
She planed her most resent attacks on me while her youngest and most vulnerable son (that is in her custody) struggles in school and his personal life, yet she does nothing to help him!
Any rational and reasonable person would adjust their anger and priorities, in order to help her son.  And yet as it has been shown on this Blog, people with mental disorders cannot see or understand facts that are before them. I know that the BPD is a huge factor her, and that with kids, parental alienation has a over whelming impact on their views, but documented facts cannot be disputed!
I have also became aware that the child protection agency has recently sent Linda some kind of letter. I can only surmise that it has something to do with the exorbitant absents of her youngest son from school and perhaps the issues revolving around a grade point average that has dropped so significantly in such a short time.
It is no wonder that her attacks and harassment toward myself and others, corresponds with her receiving such a letter. This is standard with those who have a disorder. They cannot look inward objectively, they can only attempt to change the focus from themselves to others and do so with outlandish and hateful allegations.

If you are in this same type of viscous circle with your ex wife and can’t understand what is happening to you, you are not alone!

I don’t care about her (the ex wife Linda) I have come to expect this type of stuff from her though. Still, I will not condone it, I will not roll over or bend over, I must…just deal with it. It is my sons, the ones she has always attempted to alienate from me that concerns me. She has been successful in her goal, there is no doubt about that. Still, they are older now and should be able to recall all the stuff she has been said and how I finally had to show them the e-mails in my own defense against her lies. Perhaps I will need to do this again with all my saved court documents. I think they are to the point in their own lives where they must MAN up and acknowledge the facts.

Please say a prayer for us all.


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