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Sunday, May 30, 2010

Doing it right

Just follow the link and see how caring people help children.

For all the evil you and I have experienced, remember people like this that work hard and...


Have a great memorial day and remember all those who fought and died for your freedom in the great country.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Family weekend

1st and foremost, remember those who fought and died for your freedoms!

As you go into the memorial day weekend, some of you will not have, or even see your children because of parental alienation. My heart goes out to you fathers and mothers/stepmothers who have suffered this Evil. Stay united with and become stronger in your relationship with your husband or wife. Become stronger in your faith and the knowledge that all things are for a reason, I reason that is hidden from you right now. Take strength in the fact that you could not change the situation, no matter what you did, no matter your choices or your second guesses…you are in a situation that was meant to be. Become stronger for it. Let go of your anger and disappointment and treat this issue as a 3rd person. Do not let the pain grow in you or cause you stress. Stress destroys your health and will kill you as sure as your ex pointing a gun and pulling the trigger. Do not take a bullet. You and only you can save yourself and your future!

Your evil ex will have to live with the fact that they destroyed their own children’s future. Altered their childhood for the worse and changed the future of the grandkids. It is a fact that children need to be raised in a intact and stable home. It is written that children need a father figure, one of authority that is capable of discernment and discipline. This knowledge is very hard for the target of the evil of parental alienation. You must understand this, understand your pain…but let it go! Step back and confront this issue without emotion. Present the facts and hope for the best, this is all you can do.

Have a great weekend and to (Rindas 2 Mom), comment on my post of March 29th, Jealousy, the root of all Evil You have a blessed weekend and enjoy, you did good!

"It should be your care, therefore, and mine, to elevate the minds of our children and exalt their courage; to accelerate and animate their industry and activity; to excite in them an habitual contempt of meanness, abhorrence of injustice and inhumanity, and an ambition to excel in every capacity, faculty, and virtue. If we suffer their minds to grovel and creep in infancy, they will grovel all their lives." --John Adams, Dissertation on the Canon and Feudal Law, 1756


Thursday, May 27, 2010

Fathers & Families

May 25, 2010

Top Story

A group of 50 mental health experts from 10 countries are part of an effort to add Parental Alienation Disorder to the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders?(DSM V), the American Psychiatric Association's "bible" of diagnoses. This scientific coalition is led by psychiatrist William Bernet, who explains that adding PAD to DSM "would spur insurance coverage, stimulate more systematic research, lend credence to a charge of parental alienation in court, and raise the odds that children would get timely treatment."

Fathers & Families wants to ensure that the DSM-5 Task Force is aware of the scope and severity of Parental Alienation. To this end, in December we asked our supporters to write the Task Force to urge them to consider including Parental Alienation Disorder in DSM-5. As usual, the response was overwhelming. It also helped lead to progress--while as expected the newly-released draft version does not specifically include Parental Alienation Disorder, the DSM-5 Task Force has now listed Parental Alienation Disorder among the "Conditions Proposed by Outside Sources...that are still under consideration by the work groups." Gaining inclusion isn't easy--David J. Kupfer, M.D., the chair of the DSM-V Task Force, recently told the media that with any disorder proposed for inclusion, "The door to get in [the manual] is pretty hard."

Over the past couple months Fathers & Families has been embroiled in a public controversy with Paul J. Fink, M.D., an Editorial Board member of the?Clinical Psychiatry News, a prominent mental health publication. Dr. Fink, who is also a professor of psychiatry at Temple University, has long been one of the leading opponents of recognizing Parental Alienation. Our recently published letter "Inexcusable Remarks" (5/10) in the?Clinical Psychiatry News explains the controversy. We wrote:

Clinical Psychiatry News? board member Dr. Paul J. Fink makes a shockingly irresponsible assertion in his recent column. He writes that family court reform groups seeking to have parental alienation disorder seriously considered for inclusion in the DSM-5 are doing so because they "don't like to be interfered with when they are sexually abusing their children." No, that is not a misprint.

Dr. Fink directs the comment at "This group [that] has petitioned the DSM task force to include PAS in the publication," meaning Fathers & Families. As is well known, since December, thousands of letters have been sent from Fathers & Families members to the three leaders of the DSM task force as part of our public campaign on the issue. The purpose of the letters has been to be sure that members of the task force understand how prevalent and devastating the effects of PAD are. But we have respectfully left the determination of whether PAD belongs in the DSM-5 to those in the mental health professions. All information concerning our campaign can be seen on our website at

Fathers & Families has conducted itself responsibly and professionally throughout the campaign, and Dr. Fink has absolutely no basis for his assertions. We demand that Dr. Fink either publicly provide a documented basis for defaming us as individuals and as an organization or that Clinical Psychiatry News?publish a full retraction, publicly positioned, of Dr. Fink's outrageous comments.

We also can't help but wonder whether a person so ready to make unsubstantiated accusations of criminal behavior properly belongs on the editorial board of a responsible publication.

Our? letter demanding a retraction? was signed by Fathers & Families Board member Thomas C. Meyers, Esq., a partner in the prestigious international law firm Brown Rudnick LLP, F & F Board Member Robert Franklin, Esq., F & F Board Chairman Ned Holstein, M.D., M.S., and myself.

Because Fink is a professor of psychiatry at Temple University, we also sent letters to John M. Daly, MD, Dean of the Temple University School of Medicine and William Dubin, MD, Interim Chair of the Psychiatry and Behavioral Science Department of the Temple University School of Medicine. In the letter to Daly and Dubin, which can be seen?here, we explained:

We also cannot help but wonder whether a person so ready to make unsubstantiated accusations of criminal behavior properly belongs on the faculty of such a well respected Medical School such as Temple University and wanted to be sure you were aware of his unfounded and irresponsible comments.

Since Dr. Fink practices in Pennsylvania, we also sent a letter of complaint to Pennsylvania's Bureau of Enforcement and Investigation's Professional Compliance Office.

In response, Dr. Fink, to his credit, apologized and retracted his defamatory statement in the latest issue of the?Clinical Psychiatry News. Dr. Fink wrote:

I apologize for suggesting that all fathers who accuse mothers of PAS are sexually abusing their children. That was clearly an overstatement that I retract. Admittedly, I got carried away when writing the article?I had absolutely no intention of impugning Dr. Bernet, his colleagues, or Fathers & Families in any way. I hope we can all come to an agreement about what constitutes alienation, how to deal with PAS, and how to proceed in court hearings when someone alleges that one or another parent is an alienator or an abuser.

On the subject of Parental Alienation, Dr. Fink also wrote:

I do not deny that parental alienation occurs and that a lot of people are hurt when there is an alienator?My major point is that all allegations of alienation by a parent need to be investigated. I am very interested in ensuring that the right thing is done on behalf of the children and that we stop any alienation of a parent that is occurring. It's the court's responsibility to ensure that a good evaluation is done.

We agree with Dr. Fink, and echoed similar sentiments in our recent column? Preventing courts from considering parental alienation will harm kids?(Capitol Weekly, 2/25/10):

Parental Alienation is a serious problem. When fact-finding in custody cases, judges and custody evaluators must be able to properly consider all available evidence. When abuse is alleged, the accusation merits serious consideration. When Parental Alienation is alleged, the accusation merits serious consideration, too.

Fink has long been an opponent of Fathers & Families and the Family Court Reform movement, particularly during our successful 2005?Campaign Against PBS's Father-Bashing?Breaking the Silence. In response to our massive popular campaign, PBS commissioned an entirely new film on child custody issues?a film which was balanced and generally sympathetic to divorced fathers.
The debate over Parental Alienation has long been marred by hysterics and wild accusations from some of those who believe that family law courts should not recognize Parental Alienation. Fink's retraction and related statement are a significant step towards rationalizing this debate and focusing on the crucial task of protecting children of divorce from harm.

Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D., a member of the Bernet group, told the Clinical Psychiatry News, "Certainly, intelligent people can disagree about parental alienation without resorting to accusing one another of being sexual abusers." We agree, and hope that the quality of the debate over Parental Alienation can be elevated.

Fathers and Families is a family court reform organization with a comprehensive strategy, an impressive history of legislative and fundraising success, and the largest reach of any advocacy group of its kind:

Opponents of recognizing Parental Alienation have been making a lot of headway in the media recently. Last month Dr. Phil did an hour long special called "Crisis in Family Court". The view put forward both by Dr. Phil and his various guests was that mothers were losing custody of their children to abusive fathers, and that the courts were favoring fathers even when there is strong evidence that they are violent or have sexually abused their children. The show featured Kathleen Russell of the well-funded mothers' family court advocacy group The Center for Judicial Excellence.

As we pointed out in?Report: Did Dr. Phil Unwittingly Promote False Accusations on Recent 'Family Court Crisis' Show??(4/26/10), the case Russell took to Dr. Phil was portrayed very inaccurately--the mother had made repeated sexual abuse allegations against the father, the girl had been medically examined for possible child sexual abuse on five separate occasions, and not one of the examinations substantiated any of the charges.

As we also noted,?NOW recently criticized Fathers & Families over Our Campaign to Ask DSM to Include Parental Alienation in Upcoming Edition?and warned of an alleged crisis in family court because of Parental Alienation.

Please click on the link to the Fathers and Families website, posted here under favorites.


Friday, May 21, 2010

We don't "drug" our kids enough!

I just had to put this head line in for my crazy ex who has submitted this blog site to the court in my ongoing court appearances. (sometimes I think she just misses me and court is the only time she gets to see my shining face) (she even wrote in her declaration that I look healthy and don't have cancer!) She considers herself above the law and who knows after the system refused to enforce 2 court orders, refused to hear the court investigators report, refused to hear the Dr. of Forensic and Clinical Psychology and after she just recently thumbed her nose at a court subpoena by not appearing...maybe she is above the law? Or perhaps the law, enforcement of and the judges that rule on the law, is the problem?

Hmmm, we will visit that issue in depth very soon and with the addition of a video feed... This blog will become even more interesting.

Anyway, you all have a great weekend and I will give you updates and not so much advice as I enter yet one more phase of the Clark vs Clark ordeal in Yakima County WA.

See below about how good drugs can be for kids!

Saturday, May 8, 2010

The Wife of Noble Character – Happy Mother’s Day

10  A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. (she is her husband crown, his pride)

11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (she brings him good)

13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. (she is an enterprising woman)

15 She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. (she is the opposite of a sluggard)

16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. (she shows good judgement)

17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. (she works hard and expects nothing that she does not earn though her own labors)

18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. (she shows wisdom, wisdom is of more value than money)

19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. ( she understands that there is “woman’s work”)

20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. (she is quick to help those in need with her labor and her earnings)

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. (she makes sure her family comes 1st and are prepared to be comfortable in hard times)

22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. (like that of a king as her own reward)

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. (she is his right hand, a part of him, an extension that makes him better, makes him complete.)

24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. (the opposite would to be clothed with shame and disgrace, everyone knows someone like that also)

26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. (she is a wise and loving counselor to her children)

27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. (she does not expect others to take care of her family)

28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: (Blessed = one who enjoys happy circumstances and from whom joy radiates to others)

29 "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." (the husbands reference to his wife’s “noble” deeds, celebrates her “noble” character…to assert that she surpasses all other women…she is worth far more than rubies)

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. (honor comes through “humility and the fear of the lord”)

There are women and mothers of this world that will never know nor deserve such praise as Proverbs 31:10 – 31:31

Jan, you are the hardest working, most loving/caring Mother I have ever know. You give of yourself without question and only ask for love and respect in return. You are all that is good in a mother and are a faultless example of what a mother can and should be.

Have a Great and Blessed Mothers Day!

Friday, May 7, 2010

How to deal with a crazy ex

Short and sweet today...

Had to go to court again this week. Funny how things never seem to change. The anger and contempt that my ex harbors is beyond belief.

Mental illness is so very destructive to a person and those around them.

Have a great weekend and remember;

She is your ex…Be Happy for that!

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” (1 Corinthians 13:7, NLT)

When you are filled with God’s love, nothing can bring you down! There is always hope for a brighter future! Share the power of God’s love with someone in need. Be an example for someone who has lost their faith and hope! Enjoy your Friday.

Take time to worship our Savior in His house this weekend!

God Bless