Well, let’s check in and see what the result of changing the
custodial parent from the father to the mother has had on young Colton. This is
the same child who commissioner Swanhart said was such a well mannered and
polite young man after she interviewed him in her chambers a couple of years
ago. It was after that meeting where
Swanhart was told things that could not have happened they way they were described
and yet she never used any common sense when evaluating the statements. I was
never allowed to question the statements or give any explanation of the facts.
Swanhart stole my sons without giving me the legal opportunity to fight for them..
3 written statements against me were presented. My ex wife
Linda lied on here sworn statement, so did her girl friend (Lis) on the false
statement she made. The other statement Linda was able to extort was from her
sons then girl friend. This statement was also false and she apologized for
making such a statement but said she was under a lot of pressure and stress
because she was living with Linda at the time. 3 statements (lies) is all she
had…In 2 days I had 17 upstanding citizens write statements not attacking my ex-wife
like a grade school sandbox fight, but simple stated facts and supported me as
a father. Police officers, CASA Gal, church members, school board members, teachers,
school principle, (Who Linda complained to the school board about and demanded
that he be disciplined for writing me a letter of support) my oldest son and
many others wrote statements of support for me. Lies from Cottonhead and resentful
predisposition of Swanhart towards a clean cut man in a cowboy hat with a beautiful
wife by his side, led to an appalling ruling that wrecked a family and forever
altered young man’s life.
When Swanhart stole my sons future (with Linda Clark and Blain
Connaughton), he had a 3.57 gpa. He was not in trouble in school and in fact
was liked by the teachers, staff and students. He was happy and not into
gangster crap or drugs. We know from FB posts that his mother is aware of the
pot smoking but does not stop it. Neither does she have any positive influence over
his school grades, attendance or participation, seems that allowing him to have
sleep over’s with his girl friend was not a good parenting choice either. Linda
was never concerned about the boys welfare or future, they were turned lose at
her house. As long as they didn’t interfere with her dating and nightlife, she
didn’t care where they went or what they did.
Thanks Swanhart, you
gave the boys to the one person that was described by the court appointed
investigator as “showing more interest in her own financial situation than in
the welfare of the boys.” And then the Clinical physiologist who after meeting
with Linda and two of the boys stated, “this is the worst case of parental alienation
I have ever seen in my 26 years of practice, over the top bad!”
He is now 16 years old, the last report available on 5-12-13
shows him failing 4 of his 6 classes, 1-C and 1-D+. He also has 26 unexcused,
28 excused absentness and 36 tardys.
He became a father in May and was 15 years old when he and
his girl friend became pregnant. Now, the girl friend that was living with him
and his mother (Linda) has returned home to her parents house, I am told. Colton
says he is going to be a good Dad but his son is born out of wedlock. His son,
his baby does not live with him. His son has no family right now. His Son has
no one to support him. His father Colton cannot. Colton is not responsible enough
to get himself to school. He has no respect for the school or faculty and that attitude
comes from his mother and her lack of respect. She thinks that everyone owes
her something and has passed that on to Colton. Colton is not taking care of
his son, you are, the tax payer is, the government welfare and food stamp
program are taking care of them all. The mother that was in school, the 16 year
old father and now the baby, all are being taken care of by the tax payer as a
result of their underage sex. Not the best way to start out a life and future.
Well, it’s not over for sure. The actions of the court, the
lies that were told and the evidence that was ignored will forever hang on the
heads of Colton, his baby and the mother of Colton’s baby.
Swanharts ruling will continue to have negative consequences
for this family and for you, a tax payer who now is forced to support and pay
for the actions of irresponsible children and a mentally ill mother.
Colton, if you read this...let it be a wakeup call for you!
No matter what has happened in your life, no matter what anger
or resentment you hold… YOU have a CHOICE!
You don’t have to continue down this loser, gangbanger,
doper, and give a crap about anyone or anything road. Pull your pants up. Unless
your hero is some loser in prison that has an enlarged butt hole…pull your
pants up and stop acting like a loser! Colton, you are smart, you can fix your
school problems if you have the guts to do it! It’s easy for a loser to just smoke
a joint and forget about working towards a future. Are you a loser Colton? Do
your pants hang down like a punk that wants to advertise his ass for sale or
rent? Do you disrespect the teachers at school? Do you think school is a joke
and something you don’t need? If so, then you are a fool and I didn’t raise no
fool! I know you hate everything about me, you have made that clear on your FB.
FYI Colton, I did not try to get you kicked out of school, I’m trying to get
you kicked into school! I can’t do anything about your attendance or the fact
that your mother does not care about you or your future. Yes, I am pulling the
plug and telling it like it is, your mother is a loser but you don’t have to
be. You boys are old enough now to see the truth. Everyone else knows it
already Colton, everyone knows about your mother. You should still love her
because she is your mother but as a mother to you and your bothers, she was
worse than a loser, she was evil in how she lied, stole your kids childhood and manipulated the system.
You have been robbed of your childhood, you have been robbed of a fun and joy
filled school experience but you can still turn it around. It’s all up to you!
Can you cowboy up or are your pants down at your knees and your arms reaching
for your ankles? Fun and games are over Colton, you have now impacted other
lives. Your girl friend has had a baby at a very young age. What do you intend
to do? Will you marry her? If not, why? If you care enough about the young lady
to have a baby with her, perhaps you care enough to marry her and support them
both? You can graduate school and raise a family at the same time but you will
need to buckle down and get to work. Stop blaming others and start working
HARD!
The next 12 months will tell the tell Colton, are you a dope
smoking loser, failing school, with a knocked up girl friend and nothing
positive to look forward to except paying child support. Yes Colton, the state
will be looking to you to provide support. Or will you use this as a turning
point? The point where Colton grows up and takes control of his life? You can
you know, no matter how you have been brainwashed, you can succeed. I know you
are strong, I know you are smart, I know you can pull your pants up and get to
work!
Question is, what does Colton believe and how tough is he? Will
you straighten up and get to work, or will you do as your mother does and blame
someone else because you fail school? Will you blame me because you have 26 unexcused
absences? How in the world can you expect to get passing grades and more
important, learn something, if you don’t attend school? 4 fs, 1 C and 1 D+….Colton,
that is disgraceful! You are not STUPIED! But your grades sure say something
else. If you can’t do your work in school, your employer will identify those
grades with laziness or stupidity. Why would they hire you? Would you hire you?
Lets see…Hi, I smoke dope, don’t care much for authority and didn’t care enough
to study for or attend my school classes…when do I start for you? Colton, you better grow up now!
Your play days are over, you will work and support your
baby or the state will be after you for a long time for child support. Yes
CHILD SUPPORT! I pay over $400 a month in child support for you and what does
that money get? Perhaps you got some smoke or did it go up your mothers nose?
Where has all that money gone? You have a car,st 2 years after the divorce. She also
sold the house I bought her, bought a larger one with a swimming pool and
shortly afterwards, filled bankruptcy while she was working full time and I was
paying her over $2,000 a month in tax free child support, Cars, booze, sex,
drugs and nightlife are very expensive. FYI
Colton, your mother is not a good example of a responsible person so please don’t
take her financial advice to heart. While I’m at it, doesn’t it seem funny that
she never finished her school? Seems she didn’t need to learn anything either.
Up to you Colton, Cowboy up, or bend over for your prison boyfriend,
choice is yours!
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05/21/13
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02:23 PM
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HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL
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No
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CHAD SEELY
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Comments: Please
assign 1 lunch detention for failure to make up detentions he has not served
for me for swearing.
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05/13/13
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08:50 AM
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HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL
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No
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CHAD SEELY
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Comments: I
informed Colten that he no longer gets to leave class as he wanders around
the school when he leaves. Colton started yelling and brought up what
happened last week. I told him he was being rude and disrespectful and that
that was the way it was, if he didn't like it, he could leave and complain.
He continued yelling and using inappropriate language, and then became
threatening, saying, "You better get out of my face!" At that
point, I yelled at him telling him that he doesn't run the school and that I
was tired of his crap and go to Seely's and not come back until we discuss
this and settle it.
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05/10/13
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09:00 AM
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HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL
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No
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CHAD SEELY
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1
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Comments: Colton
displayed disrespect, insubordination, disruptive behavior, and inappropriate
language and conduct when given an assignment. On May 9th Colton and several
other boys in 2nd period had behaved irresponsibly. As a consequence, today,
May 10th the students who made the poor choices yesterday received an
alternate assignment to complete at their desks instead of participating in
an active assignment with the rest of the class. Colton was the only student
to react inappropriately to this assignment. He cursed, and said he wasn't
goning to do the assignment. I told him he could do the assignment, or go to
Mr. Seely's office. Colton shouted at me using rude language, slammed his bag
and his hands around into a chair, desks etc. making a lot of noise and
disrupting the class. He shouted all the way to the open door, then stood on
the porch of the portable shouting into the room. In part he shouted, "I
don't need this sh--! I'm out of the room now! What you gonna do now, huh?!
You can't do nothing! What you gonna do?! I'm out! I'm out! What you gonna
do?! You can't do nothing!" I left the front of the room and started
towards the door and he retreated down the ramp, still shouting. I called Mr.
Seely to alert him to Colton's imminent arrival. I left a voicemail message
for him, then called Mrs. Schultz and got voicemail there too but did not
leave her a message. I called Mrs. Notman and asked her to send Colton to Mr.
Seely's office if she saw him wandering the halls. I doubted Colton would
actually go to Mr. Seely's office as I had directed him. As it turned out, he
didn't. Mr. Seely later entered my classroom and said he hadn't seen Colton.
I reported to him that the other students were working well on the
alternative assignment. Only Colton had reacted inappropriately.
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03/22/13
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12:40 PM
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HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL
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No
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CHAD SEELY
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1
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Comments: Disruptive,
argumentative, refusal to follow directions, believing he's above rules and
requirements. Sent to Mr. Seely for the remainder of the period.
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10/08/12
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11:59 AM
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HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL
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No
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CHAD SEELY
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1
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Comments: Colton
came to class with his food and pop from Freds. Colton asked to be able to
eat his lunch. I told him to place it on the front desk and not touch it as
the 2nd bell had rung. While everyone was preparing to take notes Colton said
that he could have finished his lunch while everyone was getting ready. I
told him that the school rules state that food is not allowed and that I
could have thrown his food away instead of allowing him to set it aside til
he leaves the class. Colton said that it "would not be a good career
move" if I were to throw it away. Of course I then threw his food and
drink away. Colton picked up his backpack and left the room, picking up his
food and drink out of the trash can as he walked out the door
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10/03/12
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09:46 AM
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HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL
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No
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CHAD SEELY
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1
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Comments: Colton
lied to the my sub telling her it was OK for him to eat his lunch in the
classroom. I will take caare of his punishment.
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S3
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POETRY
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S3
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TEACHER ASSISTANT
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S3
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ALGEBRA 2C
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S3
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CHEMISTRY C
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S3
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ADVANCED WOODS
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S3
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Come on Colton, get in the saddle and lets go for a ride!
The only way stepmoms can get any "authority" is through DH (dear husband), and he must give it to us by expecting and demanding that his kids respond to us with obedience and respect, or at least respectful behavior. THAT is what is meant by a supportive DH. Most of them THINK they are supportive, But unless they are willing to discipline their children every single time they speak disrespectfully to us, or ignore us, or disobey us, they are giving their children permission to continue and in cases of mental illness sometimes escalate, this behavior. This is a clear example of excalated behaviour! And because our DHs have NEVER had to be mothers, they don't know what we're talking about when we try to get their help. They are still being the same parents they were when they were married to their exes, things worked out ok there (*except their kids are out of control and they are divorced), so they assume that the problem is US and NOT thier sweet innocent little angel faces.
ReplyDeleteSo sad, so sad.... the kids are the loosers.
None of these children had any respect or manners taught to them, they were all disrespectful to their teachers especially women. It appears the father failed to instill this in his sons from the very beginning.
Dang, I hope you are wrong on most all of your points, but thanks for the comment anyway.
DeleteInteresting comments.
ReplyDeleteI think you place to much blame on the father. Ya know mothers do have a responsibility. They should work with the father and not just say “wait until your father gets home” Yep, Dad is always the bad guy. Sounds like you know this bunch very well None of these children had any respect or manners taught to them, they were all disrespectful to their teachers especially women. I think I read somewhere that a Judge said they were well mannered.
Because you know claim to know them so well, who are you???
Is this “just a dad” a loser dad with a stupid blog?
Have you read some of this stuff here? Amazing!
Hey, The kids suffer sure, but I'll bet the fathers life change is ways he never would have expected, Sure did with me! One child loves me and the other hates, really hates me. Crap Dave...
ReplyDeleteHey Dave, my life? yes it has been changed forever. This has also effected many others lives and one can only hope and pray that this case will somehow help someone else. PA is a very real and very evil crime against families. Hang in there and pray that one day you can have an open minded and civil conversation with the other one.
DeleteWell dang, funny how people view things huh.
ReplyDeleteOne of my sons texted me about this post. He ripped into me pretty good, seems he did not read what I wrote, Maybe he read what Colton told him I wrote?
Not one word of encouragement for Colton and his attitude but a long message about how rotten I am for saying anything. Nothing about the facts in the blog, the grades, the attendance, the discipline, nothing about any concerns for Colton at all. The concerns was that I wrote that “Sh.t”. I ask someone to write and tell me just where I am off the mark here and Colton and his mother deserve a pass.
No way, the facts, the documentation and results are there for all to see.
If they are happy with where they are in life then fine.
I’m here if they grow up
OK, I’ll comment here because as I check the school…I find out that he has an unexcused absence today!
ReplyDeleteWhat is the deal here????
The real deal, you want to know the real deal? Way to many kids these days think only of themselves.
Case in point; Colton knows I have cancer and yet not one Father’s day card, not one B card, not a message on the phone…nothing on FB. Colton knows that his grandfather, my Father died of the same cancer I have. I was by his side for a week before he passed. Not one word from Colton, no cards, no messages. So when Colton calls to tell me he is a father at 16 years of age, school is going fine and he has it all planed out on how to take care of his girl friend and baby…Thanks for caring about your grandfather, thanks for your continued concern for your own fathers health. You must have been taught well, care about only yourself and blame others for any misfortune or disadvantage you perceive. Wow, what a way to go through life……………….
Phone call? No Colton, after you leave messages like that, you will get no return call.
Where are you in his life? So easy to blame? Wake up he is not the only 16 yr old dad.this has been going on for decades..omg you prob lucked out and didn't happen to you. What a dad you are not for writing duch hurtful things.School records are not for public eyes if so everyone would have access to them..Do you not realize teen parents come from two parent families too.You are very ignorant to these facts..What a man to knock your son down...Did you send him any cards? You have to give respect to get respect..You are blaming others for your failures..Yes you are the looser..Your not setting a Good example.Blame everyone but yourself..That's Right take a look at yourself..
ReplyDeleteThis is a small town and a small school, the teachers and everyone else knows what really went on with this family and they have all experienced on a very personal level what continues to go on in the classroom, all of our children see and are exposed to this undisciplined behaviour, this is no secret. This is the leftovers of what used to be a great looking family, then Linda took off and left the boys with dad, we watched him drive to Yakima every day it wasn't his week to keep them here in this school while the mom??? From the talk I've heard, I doubt the dad even knows where they live, pretty hard to send cards when they move all the time and refused to talk to him or visit with him. If I know Bruce, he's still paying child support for "a man with his own son" the state will be after for child support very soon. And yet he shouldn't be concerned about the lack of parenting or his son failing to attend school and flunking? Yes, we can see thru the lines of who wrote this "Where are you in his life?" blaming Bruce comment very clearly and very easily.
DeleteInteresting comment and thank you. I am very sorry that you and others have to deal with the result of Parental Alienation. I know it's not anyone else job but if you can help him in any small way, I would greatly appreciate it.
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DeleteWho's holding mom accountable? Who's holding the school accountable? Obviously a high risk family environment with these types of behaviours. Maybe dad needs to look at the Washington state laws in place for these types of home situations and haul the moms butt back to court along with filing a suit against the school for not enforcing the law?
ReplyDeleteState Law on Truancy ~ http://www.k12.wa.us/Safetycenter/Truancy/default.aspx
Washington state's truancy law, known as the Becca Bill, requires the school/district and the juvenile court to take specific actions when youth are truant.
School/District Requirements
After one unexcused absence in a month, the school is required to inform the parent in writing or by phone.
After two unexcused absences, the school is required to initiate a parent conference to improve the student's attendance.
After five unexcused absences in a month, the parent and school must enter a contract to improve the student's attendance. Or, the case can be referred to a Community Truancy Board.
After seven unexcused absences in a month, or ten unexcused absences in an academic year, the school district may file truancy petitions with the juvenile court.
If the student is not in compliance with a court order resulting from a tuition petition, the school is required to file a contempt motion.
I failed him as a father and have no influence over him. It is very sad that his mother has allowed or condoned his behavior.
DeleteThat aside, the school has the responsibility to pursue what ever legal action that is available to them to keep Colton in school. The custodial parent has the legal responsibility to make sure the child attends school, period.
Now its my turn to respond..Let's first talk about the good Christian your Not......Also let everyone knoq how much visitation you've had in the last 2 years Absolutely ZERO......How many times did u call him...Oh again ZERO...He called you to be the bigger man but you immediately emailed the school and tried to have him expelled..Why don't you tell yoyr readers all the truth...Lied about being divirced moved out if state..got your child support lowered by your lies.So called gave a organic cherry orchard that was to y for your four sons college to your ex wife that you are still married too..Post all your businesses and trips on line but only have 1 picture of one of your sons out of the four.You have failed as a father in more ways then one..and you know it..Purgury.abandonment falsified records bashing everyone blamming everyone.. Are you really a Christian? No you are NOT....u dont live in the area so how do you think you know everything...You dont..FYI I DO HAVE A DIPLOMA AND HAVE GONE TO COLLEGE...I dont do drugs and lead a great life..Too bad your so miserable......Be a MAN and send us your address so we can serve papers to you so we can stop thE BS...Let the truth be known...I don't think you want to end up in Yakima court again as charges may lead to jail time...You burnt your bridges in Yakima...Remember I can reopen the case if undisclosed income has been found or if you lied about being divorced from Jan in Yakima County...and you and We my ATTNY know yoy lied.....We have done our homework......What is your obsession?...We are sick of Your Stalking.....Make sure you post this...You only post what you want them to see...I have nothing to Hide but you both sure DO.....keep up your fasad of the Good Christians your not............
ReplyDeleteO-Linda, I don’t care about your attacks on me, get over it, you can’t hurt me anymore. Just some FACTS Linda about your new pitiful comments;
Delete1.You lie, I never tried to get my son expelled but you can tell him any lie you wish. I know he will believe you.
2.Wow, then it’s back to what you have always been after, money. You say nothing about his grades nor his attendance or impregnating his girlfriend when he was only 15 years old under your sole supervision.
3.Well, after reading the rest of your comment, I don’t have to say anything. It is very clear to anyone that reads this or takes the time to read and study this blog. The Doctor and the court investigator were very correct in their assessment.
Children learn what they Live. No truer words were spoken! A Hate Filled money hungry ex wife can sure ruin her kids. I know mine ruined both my daughters and turned them against me just like yours did to you. Threats and MONEY, extortion for spreading her legs. Why does she give a rip if you are married or a christian? Vile, just vile and I'll bet you are counting the days when you are done paying her off for her services.
DeleteI knew you only would publish what you want..You have no idea of truth...God Bless you great Christians....NOT
ReplyDeleteWhy do you hate Christians so Linda?
DeleteIf your sons taking care of his kid and girlfriend then why is his mom still collecting child support for daddy from the grandpa? What the???
ReplyDeleteIt is the way the system works. Put the child support aside, The young man is a victim of the system
DeleteI'll bet his kid is sucking the system just like he grew up. WIC, Food Stamps, Day Care programs, HUD Housing etc. etc. ad nauseum! My daughter made me a grandpa at 16, her mother ruined her life!
DeleteYou need to haul your evil ex wife back to court for child abuse! If he's a daddy now then you need to file papers to stop paying the child support grand-mommy is so clearly after.
DeleteGrandma clearly cant parent this juvenile delinquent son of hers.
What were the consequences of his unbelievable disrespect towards his teachers?????????
Teachers don't get paid enough to put up with his B-Shit and shouldn't ever have to!
How would YOU know anything about That?????? Gee everyone seems to know all.....Amazing..Everyone needs to get a Life and worry about yourselves........
DeleteThe art of teaching respect for authority has fallen by the way side by many parents. Although teachers will teach this criterion and will emulate what it means to be respectful to authority figures, we need to begin this lesson at home. The most important things parents can teach their child is respect. Respect your elders, efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that's real power.
ReplyDeleteAll of you have any idea of the truth.So glad this community thinks they know all and have nothing better to do...Yes he is a victim of the system because he has a father that only can see the bad..Life is not petfect what about the good? All you can post is the bad. The other boys lived with their mother and I believe one was an Honor student.but nothing positive comes from your blog..Sure hope your not talking just because you are guilty..talk about moving Really ? You moved away no forwarding address and had to mail several in the community your hatred letters and even posted a sign in flouresant letters to support your hate..Give it a Rest..Move on with your Life Grow up.....Your bashing of your son.His Mother..the judges attorneys and everyone but yourself..No one cares....This is not the only family..All families have issues..of some kind. You give the TRUE CHRISTIANS a bad name.Your actions are so Non Christian Like. Be A Man.....Move On...
ReplyDeleteHow would any one of these commenters know anything about any of the facts. Everyone seems to have an opionon Really? As you state just a dad.do your children know where u live..? Everyone obviously needs to move on with THEIR LIVES..Sad and sorry I came across this site. So shameful to see everyone acting foolish.. Small Towns Gossip and Drama. If yoy are not in your sons life Move On or make ammends.Life is too short....
ReplyDeleteYou are a sick Christian hating atheist ! No wonder your kid turned out like this wih a mother like you raising him with so much hate!
ReplyDeletehttp://youtu.be/Pr6v-o-yKBM
ReplyDeleteI followed the link above, it takes you to the Doc Phil show. This is VERY real and happens much to often. The link is a very good look at what PA is and it's harmful effects.
ReplyDeleteIf you are a victim of PA,this video will help you and perhaps your child.
Good luck to you!
Confirmation today that Lani Kai Swanhart is no longer working for Yakima County.
ReplyDeleteBeau, that is good news for sure. She will no longer be able to destroy lives in Yakima. The evil she has done can not be undone. It will continue to have a negative effect on countless lives as her rulings still effect mine. MY life and those of my sons and people around us would have been much different if this vile, man hating woman had never been in the court. I'm so sorry for all the lives she wrecked. For myself, I can only do as God directs and forgive her, anything else is to let hate and evil continue to have a foothold in my life. I refuse to dwell what she has done and except that life is not always fair or just. The only moral of this whole story...stay out of the courts.
ReplyDeleteC. Dillon C.
ReplyDeleteDefendant Yakima County Dist 3Z0742886 10-14-2013
Thank you Anonymous. I checked it out, didn't have a seat belt on, had to pay a fine. Not a bad thing :) I had some traffic tickets when I was young myself, just nothing as mild as this :) I just wish he was doing better in school but...it is what it is.
ReplyDeleteLinda Clark has just done a smashing bang up job of raising a lawless son hasn't she!
ReplyDeleteI found your web site by misstate you seem to be a very angry person to hate so many and to drag your children over the web and thru the mud. What kind of a person does that. Especially a so called father. Sounds to me if you really got to the bottom of it you must still be in love with your ex wife if it's been all these years and you couldn't make your current marriage work . Maybe you need to talk to God. I'm a mental health worker and I obviously see and feel you need some mental help especially stating it's been over 10 years. If you are not aware of the things that you post of your son is a form of child abuse. I'm in hopes that your first ex wife and mother of your son got custody for his sake. If he is missing as much school as you say and his grades are the way they are maybe it's because you neglected to be a father. Anyone can be a father but it takes a real MAN to be a DAD. As it is apparent that you are really not divorced from the 2d wife as its has stated before who knows god as it states in the bible treat others as you wish to be treated maybe you both need to reread the bible and if that will not work try getting help for your unsurpassed anger and really if you were really truly a Christian and believed as the bible says forgiveness is pretty high in Christian ways as being one myself
ReplyDeleteSorry Linda, I wish you paid as much attention to Coltons behavior, attitude, friends and school grades as you do with trying to deceive others.
Deletewhy wouldn't you want everyone to know what's being said I see you wish to approve everything you also have control issues
ReplyDeleteYes Linda...I have control issues. Are you done yet?
Deletethe more I go back through this you sound like Waco Texas, and Ruby Ridge what kind of people are you and you say you put your self with us as real Christians I have never seen any one behave like this except. people who have no real idea of what hell could be
ReplyDeleteYes Linda, and all these comments come the day after he gets expelled from school. No need to reply with how it was all the schools fault and how you set them straight with your lawsuit threats, I know what happened and I am happy he is back in school but deplore the technicality that was used for that end result. Facts are what they are and right now the graduation for a smart young man is not very likely. No, it is not my fault. I did all I could to help him and fight against what you were doing but he made his choice and he choose your lies. Nothing can change that now. Facts about my employment and marriage status are public knowledge (stated in court and back by documents) and have been for some time now. Sorry about your luck but this cash cow has been dried up for sometime now. I have not protested because of my pride and honor, I keep finding a way. As you are fond of saying...it's time for you to move on.
DeleteBtw Colton is graduating this year. He is enlisted. He is engaged planning to get married this summer. You spent so much time concentrating on all the bad you haven't bothered looking at the good. Your first grandson was born and you never asked about him. Now you won't ever have the pleasure of meeting him...what a pity
ReplyDeleteHi Linda/Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment and concern.
I do hope that Colton will graduate; it has been my hope for a long time. I only wish he was doing so with grades and attendance that reflects just how smart he really is. Instead of his grades declining each year since the time he had a 3.56 gpa when he lived at home. I wish only that his school grades showed the same level of dedication to learning that he once had. Still, I am very happy for him if he indeed works hard and graduates with his class this year.
I understand that he is enlisted in the Army and I think that is a very wise choice for him. I wish him only the best and pray for his safety.
I also understand that he is planning to get married and again, I’m please to learn of his commitment.
I understand you view, but you miss the reality of how his life has progressed. I remember all the good and pray for more of the same in the future but the facts of being an unmarried father at 16 years old and having difficulties with discipline and school work…are not things I would point out as being good.
I wonder how you know so much or assume to know so much about my inquires and concern for Colton’s son. Sadly I fully understand that the Evils of Parental Alienation is still had at work.
To say I “won’t ever have the pleasure of meeting him” is very sad indeed. I just shows how your dedication and devotion to your cause of vilifying me to my sons.
Mr. Colton will soon be starting a new life, a new job/adventure with a new wife and his son. I can only hope and continue to pray that the hatred you have instilled in him for me will soften with time.
Time has a way of curing all ills and I know that one day, I will be having a family dinner with all my sons and their families.
That wasn't Linda. This is Vanessa, Colton's fiancee. Oh and just to get this out there, we don't have welfare, food stamps or anything of the sort. Although I don't know the full story, from what I've seen on here half of the things they have told me must be true. I am so sorry I convinced Colton to call you and try to make things work between you guys. You obviously aren't interested in making up with him our even meeting us. So why don't you just stop bashing your son on the internet and leave him alone
ReplyDeleteThis is long so I had to split it up;
ReplyDeleteWell Hi Vanessa. I’m so sorry that the 1st time we have a conversation is on a blog about the Evils of Parental Alienation. The blog you have posted on is almost a year old and there have been 7 others since that time. I believe those are all good posts full of good and positive information. The post you have commented on was referring to the history of the case and how the court system was involved. Those facts that were stated are just that, documented facts of the case. The school facts about Colton are also part of his record, good or bad, they will always be there. It’s very possible that I have made an incorrect assessment about support and the tax payers. Perhaps you can prove me wrong in my assumption by showing how the cost of pregnancy and birth was covered? If you or Colton paid that expense then I applaud your efforts! That is indeed a rare thing now days. Because Colton was only 16 at the time and you yourself were very young, I assumed you used support programs that are in place for such cases.
About what you have been told, I wonder what that is and to whom you get your information. If you have taken the time to read all the information on this blog then you should truly know where I stand and the love I have for all my sons. You will also understand that I do not condone poor behavior and will not cover it up or dismiss it in order to appease anyone. My convictions and principles apply not only to my sons but to the court system and others as well. I attempt to hold myself to a high standard and expect the same from friends, family and people I have contact with.
Your reply is a little puzzling to me because it does not address anything I commented on except that you take credit for what was written instead of Linda. I can count 6 times where I applauded Colton’s efforts and his direction. So I really don’t understand why you seem so upset with me?
Why would you say you’re sorry about your effort to “make things work between you guys”? I would like nothing more than to have a good relationship with Colton, you, my grandson and any future grand children. I don’t understand why you make the statement that I’m not interested in making up or meeting with you two? Even at the end of the blog post you have commented on I asked him to “Come on Colton, get in the saddle and let’s go for a ride!” That is an open invitation to visit and spend some time with me. He left me a message on my phone and gave me conditions that I had to meet for us to talk again. Instead of returning the phone call and risking an argument on the phone, I replied with a 4 page letter and sent it to the PO box number he gave me. Below are parts of the letter, if you wish and with yours and Colton’s permission I will gladly post the whole letter and let others judge for themselves.
I hope the letter reached Colton and you also had a chance to read it.
ReplyDelete1. I would love to see my grandson at some point. Perhaps at a wedding and celebration of your new life and family.
2. Now the good part;
a. Your photos on FB look very nice Colton. Your son looks cute and I hear he is a very happy little boy. His mother is also very pretty and you both have great loving smiles, nice to see! You guys make a good looking couple. I still believe in marriage and just because you have seen the pain in it does not excuse you two from making a commitment to each other and I hope that you do for your son’s sake and his mother. They deserve that type of commitment from the father.
b. Your school is very important to you all Colton. You need to fully understand this. Your son and his mother will be expecting a lot from you. They need a role model and provider. You are the one they will be looking up to and therefore you need to set an example. As an employer and someone who has always been around leaders and those who hire a lot of people, I know what they look for. Starting/beginning in the work force, they will look at all the applications and your school records. Attendance is huge! If you can’t make it to school on time they figure you won’t be making it to work on time either. If you won’t apply yourself in the class room and get at least respectable grades, why would they expect that you would do good work for them? If they see discipline issues in the class room, that raises a red flag and they want no part of an undisciplined employee. There are many applications for each job out there. They want a good solid employee that will benefit the company, enjoy their work and be loyal. They do not wish to hire someone that they consider a risk. I have heard you are working hard and looking good, that is great! Now understand that is just a part, demonstrate and show without a doubt what you are fully capable of. You have the ability to earn great grades. You have one year left to show the world on paper, and document that you can do whatever you set your mind to. Do not ever give excuses for failure.
3. The past and forgiveness;
a. You can never forget the past. Your brain remembers everything you have ever done, seen or heard. You can learn from the past and mistakes made and strive to not repeat those in the future. Indeed, as a parent, you try to prevent your children from repeating those mistakes and direct them in a better direction. That is why the respect for your elders. They have been there and done that. They do not wish you to make the mistakes they did.
b. Forgiveness, that is Gods greatest gift to man. It is so important; He sent is only Son to die on the cross so that our sins can be forgiven. Jesus forgave us all at that time. Today, we have to ask for forgiveness and repent of our sins. Forgiveness is something that has to be honestly asked for, without any strings attached. It must come from a new heart and an honest plea followed by actions worthy of forgiveness. Forgiveness should not be asked for lightly and therefore not be granted lightly but with full expectations that the issue has been resolved and will not be visited again
4. If I can leave you with one thing, if you will do one thing I ask, please do this. Read Ephesians out loud with your girl friend. You can read the whole book in a short evening. Then re-read it and have a discussion about what is written and why. I use the NIV study Bible. Try it out.
Your choice Colton, whatever that is, I hope you have a happy life J
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Vanessa, your last statement in the 1st post that you say you wrote says “Now you won't ever have the pleasure of meeting him...what a pity”. If you have never met me, if you have read the blog, if you have looked at the facts and truth documented here, why would you make such a statement? This post is older than the message that Colton left me, that you said you asked him to do, what changed since then? What do you mean by “So why don't you just stop bashing your son on the internet and leave him alone”. Has there been posts since his phone call that you object to? If so, please tell me what you have an issue with.
ReplyDeleteIf this is truly your words and you are not being intimidated or encouraged by Colton’s mother, as she has done in the past to others, then I am truly sorry. I hope that time will soften your stance.
Still it seems curious to me how you worded the 1st comment you say was yours. Why start with “Btw”? Why just state he is engaged and not mention (us) or with you? Why if you have read the letter I sent to Colton would you say “you haven't bothered looking at the good.” Why did you say “Your first grandson was born” and not mention that you are the mother of my 1st grand child?
It seems the words from Doctor Newell are being validated as he said “You will never be rid of this parental alienation. Your ex will vilify you to your children and their children for the rest of your life. She will not stop; you will have to deal with that fact. I am sorry for you!”
I hope and pray for the very best for you both Vanessa, you can call me anytime. Colton has my number.
.Come on man, keep your back bone! We follow your blog and my wife and I both know it was Linda making the statement you 1st replied to. Things have not changed here. Your ex has no one that wants to associate with here at school or elsewhere.
ReplyDeleteI may have to call you or find your e-mail address and fill you in on some things.
Haven't seen you around here in a long time, hope you are doing well.
Keep the chin up and know you have a lot of backing in the area.
One last word...everyone is sorry that you moved but, we came to understand why