5-24-13 Will he grow up despite us all?

Well, let’s check in and see what the result of changing the custodial parent from the father to the mother has had on young Colton. This is the same child who commissioner Swanhart said was such a well mannered and polite young man after she interviewed him in her chambers a couple of years ago.  It was after that meeting where Swanhart was told things that could not have happened they way they were described and yet she never used any common sense when evaluating the statements. I was never allowed to question the statements or give any explanation of the facts. Swanhart stole my sons without giving me the legal opportunity to fight for them..  

3 written statements against me were presented. My ex wife Linda lied on here sworn statement, so did her girl friend (Lis) on the false statement she made. The other statement Linda was able to extort was from her sons then girl friend. This statement was also false and she apologized for making such a statement but said she was under a lot of pressure and stress because she was living with Linda at the time. 3 statements (lies) is all she had…In 2 days I had 17 upstanding citizens write statements not attacking my ex-wife like a grade school sandbox fight, but simple stated facts and supported me as a father. Police officers, CASA Gal, church members, school board members, teachers, school principle, (Who Linda complained to the school board about and demanded that he be disciplined for writing me a letter of support) my oldest son and many others wrote statements of support for me. Lies from Cottonhead and resentful predisposition of Swanhart towards a clean cut man in a cowboy hat with a beautiful wife by his side, led to an appalling ruling that wrecked a family and forever altered young man’s life.  

When Swanhart stole my sons future (with Linda Clark and Blain Connaughton), he had a 3.57 gpa. He was not in trouble in school and in fact was liked by the teachers, staff and students. He was happy and not into gangster crap or drugs. We know from FB posts that his mother is aware of the pot smoking but does not stop it. Neither does she have any positive influence over his school grades, attendance or participation, seems that allowing him to have sleep over’s with his girl friend was not a good parenting choice either. Linda was never concerned about the boys welfare or future, they were turned lose at her house. As long as they didn’t interfere with her dating and nightlife, she didn’t care where they went or what they did.

 Thanks Swanhart, you gave the boys to the one person that was described by the court appointed investigator as “showing more interest in her own financial situation than in the welfare of the boys.” And then the Clinical physiologist who after meeting with Linda and two of the boys stated, “this is the worst case of parental alienation I have ever seen in my 26 years of practice, over the top bad!”

He is now 16 years old, the last report available on 5-12-13 shows him failing 4 of his 6 classes, 1-C and 1-D+. He also has 26 unexcused, 28 excused absentness and 36 tardys.

He became a father in May and was 15 years old when he and his girl friend became pregnant. Now, the girl friend that was living with him and his mother (Linda) has returned home to her parents house, I am told. Colton says he is going to be a good Dad but his son is born out of wedlock. His son, his baby does not live with him. His son has no family right now. His Son has no one to support him. His father Colton cannot. Colton is not responsible enough to get himself to school. He has no respect for the school or faculty and that attitude comes from his mother and her lack of respect. She thinks that everyone owes her something and has passed that on to Colton. Colton is not taking care of his son, you are, the tax payer is, the government welfare and food stamp program are taking care of them all. The mother that was in school, the 16 year old father and now the baby, all are being taken care of by the tax payer as a result of their underage sex. Not the best way to start out a life and future.  

Well, it’s not over for sure. The actions of the court, the lies that were told and the evidence that was ignored will forever hang on the heads of Colton, his baby and the mother of Colton’s baby.  

Swanharts ruling will continue to have negative consequences for this family and for you, a tax payer who now is forced to support and pay for the actions of irresponsible children and a mentally ill mother.

Colton, if you read this...let it be a wakeup call for you!   

No matter what has happened in your life, no matter what anger or resentment you hold… YOU have a CHOICE!

You don’t have to continue down this loser, gangbanger, doper, and give a crap about anyone or anything road. Pull your pants up. Unless your hero is some loser in prison that has an enlarged butt hole…pull your pants up and stop acting like a loser! Colton, you are smart, you can fix your school problems if you have the guts to do it! It’s easy for a loser to just smoke a joint and forget about working towards a future. Are you a loser Colton? Do your pants hang down like a punk that wants to advertise his ass for sale or rent? Do you disrespect the teachers at school? Do you think school is a joke and something you don’t need? If so, then you are a fool and I didn’t raise no fool! I know you hate everything about me, you have made that clear on your FB. FYI Colton, I did not try to get you kicked out of school, I’m trying to get you kicked into school! I can’t do anything about your attendance or the fact that your mother does not care about you or your future. Yes, I am pulling the plug and telling it like it is, your mother is a loser but you don’t have to be. You boys are old enough now to see the truth. Everyone else knows it already Colton, everyone knows about your mother. You should still love her because she is your mother but as a mother to you and your bothers, she was worse than a loser, she was evil in how she lied, stole your kids childhood and manipulated the system. You have been robbed of your childhood, you have been robbed of a fun and joy filled school experience but you can still turn it around. It’s all up to you! Can you cowboy up or are your pants down at your knees and your arms reaching for your ankles? Fun and games are over Colton, you have now impacted other lives. Your girl friend has had a baby at a very young age. What do you intend to do? Will you marry her? If not, why? If you care enough about the young lady to have a baby with her, perhaps you care enough to marry her and support them both? You can graduate school and raise a family at the same time but you will need to buckle down and get to work. Stop blaming others and start working HARD!

The next 12 months will tell the tell Colton, are you a dope smoking loser, failing school, with a knocked up girl friend and nothing positive to look forward to except paying child support. Yes Colton, the state will be looking to you to provide support. Or will you use this as a turning point? The point where Colton grows up and takes control of his life? You can you know, no matter how you have been brainwashed, you can succeed. I know you are strong, I know you are smart, I know you can pull your pants up and get to work!

Question is, what does Colton believe and how tough is he? Will you straighten up and get to work, or will you do as your mother does and blame someone else because you fail school? Will you blame me because you have 26 unexcused absences? How in the world can you expect to get passing grades and more important, learn something, if you don’t attend school? 4 fs, 1 C and 1 D+….Colton, that is disgraceful! You are not STUPIED! But your grades sure say something else. If you can’t do your work in school, your employer will identify those grades with laziness or stupidity. Why would they hire you? Would you hire you? Lets see…Hi, I smoke dope, don’t care much for authority and didn’t care enough to study for or attend my school classes…when do I start for you?  Colton, you better grow up now!

Your play days are over, you will work and support your baby or the state will be after you for a long time for child support. Yes CHILD SUPPORT! I pay over $400 a month in child support for you and what does that money get? Perhaps you got some smoke or did it go up your mothers nose? Where has all that money gone? You have a car,^st 2 years after the divorce. She also sold the house I bought her, bought a larger one with a swimming pool and shortly afterwards, filled bankruptcy while she was working full time and I was paying her over $2,000 a month in tax free child support, Cars, booze, sex, drugs and nightlife are very expensive.  FYI Colton, your mother is not a good example of a responsible person so please don’t take her financial advice to heart. While I’m at it, doesn’t it seem funny that she never finished her school? Seems she didn’t need to learn anything either.

perhaps that was not money well spent but your mother loves cars. If I remember correctly, she bought and owned 11 cars and trucks in the 1

Up to you Colton, Cowboy up, or bend over for your prison boyfriend, choice is yours!

05/21/13	02:23 PM	INAPPROPRIATE LANGUAGE	CLS	HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL	No	CHAD SEELY
Comments: Please assign 1 lunch detention for failure to make up detentions he has not served for me for swearing.
05/13/13	08:50 AM	Disruptive Behavior	CLS	HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL	No	CHAD SEELY
Comments: I informed Colten that he no longer gets to leave class as he wanders around the school when he leaves. Colton started yelling and brought up what happened last week. I told him he was being rude and disrespectful and that that was the way it was, if he didn't like it, he could leave and complain. He continued yelling and using inappropriate language, and then became threatening, saying, "You better get out of my face!" At that point, I yelled at him telling him that he doesn't run the school and that I was tired of his crap and go to Seely's and not come back until we discuss this and settle it.
05/10/13	09:00 AM	DISRESPECT	CLS	HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL	No	CHAD SEELY	1
Comments: Colton displayed disrespect, insubordination, disruptive behavior, and inappropriate language and conduct when given an assignment. On May 9th Colton and several other boys in 2nd period had behaved irresponsibly. As a consequence, today, May 10th the students who made the poor choices yesterday received an alternate assignment to complete at their desks instead of participating in an active assignment with the rest of the class. Colton was the only student to react inappropriately to this assignment. He cursed, and said he wasn't goning to do the assignment. I told him he could do the assignment, or go to Mr. Seely's office. Colton shouted at me using rude language, slammed his bag and his hands around into a chair, desks etc. making a lot of noise and disrupting the class. He shouted all the way to the open door, then stood on the porch of the portable shouting into the room. In part he shouted, "I don't need this sh--! I'm out of the room now! What you gonna do now, huh?! You can't do nothing! What you gonna do?! I'm out! I'm out! What you gonna do?! You can't do nothing!" I left the front of the room and started towards the door and he retreated down the ramp, still shouting. I called Mr. Seely to alert him to Colton's imminent arrival. I left a voicemail message for him, then called Mrs. Schultz and got voicemail there too but did not leave her a message. I called Mrs. Notman and asked her to send Colton to Mr. Seely's office if she saw him wandering the halls. I doubted Colton would actually go to Mr. Seely's office as I had directed him. As it turned out, he didn't. Mr. Seely later entered my classroom and said he hadn't seen Colton. I reported to him that the other students were working well on the alternative assignment. Only Colton had reacted inappropriately.
03/22/13	12:40 PM	Inappropriate Conduct	CLS	HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL	No	CHAD SEELY	1
Comments: Disruptive, argumentative, refusal to follow directions, believing he's above rules and requirements. Sent to Mr. Seely for the remainder of the period.
10/08/12	11:59 AM	INSUBORDINATION	ALL	HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL	No	CHAD SEELY	1
Comments: Colton came to class with his food and pop from Freds. Colton asked to be able to eat his lunch. I told him to place it on the front desk and not touch it as the 2nd bell had rung. While everyone was preparing to take notes Colton said that he could have finished his lunch while everyone was getting ready. I told him that the school rules state that food is not allowed and that I could have thrown his food away instead of allowing him to set it aside til he leaves the class. Colton said that it "would not be a good career move" if I were to throw it away. Of course I then threw his food and drink away. Colton picked up his backpack and left the room, picking up his food and drink out of the trash can as he walked out the door
10/03/12	09:46 AM	Inappropriate Conduct	CLS	HIGHLAND HIGH SCHOOL	No	CHAD SEELY	1
Comments: Colton lied to the my sub telling her it was OK for him to eat his lunch in the classroom. I will take caare of his punishment.
Classes for: Trimester 3 (03/09/13-06/13/13) Prev View All Classes			Click on the underlined grade to see the assignments that make up that grade.

Period	Class	Description	Term	Teacher	P5	P6	TR3
0	ADV11/BR3	JR ADVISORY	S3	BRIAN RAFFERTY
1	ENG308/31	POETRY	S3	TERYNE OLLIE	F	F	F
2	TAHAZ/32	TEACHER ASSISTANT	S3	PATRICK HAZEN		F	F
3	MAT303/33	ALGEBRA 2C	S3	GREGORY WAGNER	F	D+	D+
4	SCI303/34	CHEMISTRY C	S3	BRAD JACOBSON	C	C	C
5	AGR202/35	ADVANCED WOODS	S3	PATRICK HAZEN	F	F	F
6	SST339/36	US HISTORY C	S3	BRIAN RAFFERTY	F	F	F

Come on Colton, get in the saddle and lets go for a ride! 

Stop with the Stalking

Linda, it has been 10 years, stop with the stalking. You got want you wanted, you got the money and you turned the boys against me. Jan and I are divorced; it does you no good to e-mail her your little questions about dogs and stuff. 10 years is long enough, let it go. I do not know where you live and can’t even send a B day card to my son…what more do you want? Yes I saw you taking photos of Jan and I at Josh’s wedding, I can date, see and live with whoever I wish, get a life of your own and stop the stalking.
There are stalking and harassment laws, the documentation is there…stop before you let your mental condition ruin the remainder of your life. Seek help.

Where have we gone? What did we allow to happen?

HIGH SCHOOL -- 1957  vs. 2010
 Scenario 1:
Jack goes duck hunting before school and then pulls into the school parking lot with his shotgun in his truck's gun rack.
1957 - Vice Principal comes over, looks at Jack's shotgun, goes to his car and gets his shotgun to show Jack.
2010 - School goes into lock down, FBI called, Jack hauled off to jail and  never sees his truck or gun again. Counsellors  called in for traumatized students and teachers.    


Scenario 2:
Johnny and Mark get into a fist fight after school.
1957 - Crowd gathers. Mark wins. Johnny and Mark shake hands  and end up buddies.
2010 - Police called and SWAT team arrives -- they arrest both Johnny and Mark.  They are both charged with assault and both expelled even though Johnny started it.


Scenario 3:
Jeffrey will not be still in class, he disrupts other students.
1957 - Jeffrey sent to the Principal's office and given a good paddling by the Principal.  He then returns to class, sits still and does not disrupt class again.                
2010 - Jeffrey is given huge doses of Ritalin.  He becomes a zombie. He is then tested for ADD. The family gets extra money (SSI) from the government because Jeffrey has a disability.  


Scenario 4:
Billy breaks a window in his neighbour's car and his Dad gives him a whipping with his belt.                
1957 - Billy is more careful next time, grows up normal, goes to college and becomes a successful businessman.  
2010 - Billy's dad is arrested for child abuse, Billy is removed to foster care and joins a gang. The state psychologist is told by Billy's sister that she remembers being abused herself and their dad goes to prison. Billy's mom has an affair with the psychologist.  


Scenario 5:
Mark gets a headache and takes some aspirin to school.
1957 - Mark shares his aspirin with the Principal out on the smoking dock.
2010 - The police are called and Mark is expelled from school for drug violations. His car is then searched for drugs and weapons.                  


Scenario 6:
Pedro fails high school English.
1957 - Pedro goes to summer school, passes English and goes to college.
2010 - Pedro's cause is taken up by state. Newspaper articles appear nationally explaining that teaching English as a  requirement for graduation is racist.  ACLU files class action lawsuit against the state school system and Pedro's English teacher. English is then banned from core curriculum. Pedro is given his diploma anyway but ends up mowing lawns for a living because he cannot speak English.                  


Scenario 7:
Johnny takes apart leftover firecrackers from the Fourth of July, puts them in a model airplane paint bottle and blows up a red ant  bed.  
1957 - Ants die.
2010 - ATF, Homeland Security and the FBI are all called. Johnny is charged with domestic terrorism.  The FBI investigates his parents - and all siblings are removed from their home and all computers are confiscated. Johnny's dad is placed on a terror watch list and is never allowed to fly again.                  


Scenario 8:
Johnny falls while running during recess and scrapes his knee.  He is found crying by his teacher, Mary. Mary hugs him to comfort him.  
1957 � In a short time, Johnny feels better and goes on playing.                
2010 - Mary is accused of being a sexual predator and loses her job. She faces 3 years in State Prison. Johnny undergoes 5 years of therapy.  

Merry Christmas to you and all our children

I am posting this e-mail for everyone, and for my own sons. I hope as to grow and mature, as you yourselves have families, please understand what is important in life. Live your life for God 1st. 

The order of your love is very clear, love your God 1st, love, honor and protect your wife 2nd and then raise your children with love and discipline as God has instructed in the Bible. This is the ONLY (and very simple) road map you have to parenting and living a happy and fulfilling life.

Dad

From Jayne A. Major;

Is it already Christmas time again? It seems like it was only a little while ago that we were ringing in the New Year. Now here we are again. It's always interesting to ask people what the holiday season means to them. Although the answers vary, one thing that is consistent is that our experiences in childhood are typically what determines how we answer that question. And it is typically our parents who set the tone for the holidays and ultimately influenced the positive or negative feelings that carry forward into our own adulthood.

We should all strive to make the holiday season a time of joy for our children. However, we too often associate a joyous Christmas or Hanukkah with the bounty of gifts that one receives. We see mobs of people in the shopping malls who will seemingly stop at nothing to get that last available popular doll or video game for their child. We condition our children to think that the expense and popularity of the gifts they receive represent a measure of their parent's love. This is a trap that all parents must avoid by teaching their children the true meaning of Christmas: the joy of giving.

I have gone into homes where it looked like the parents bought the whole inventory from Toys R Us. In fact, the children and their toys had taken over every room in the house. While merchants would be thrilled if parents would do this, I don't think that it is a good idea. Children have no restraint about asking for anything and everything that crosses their mind to want. It is easy to go overboard at Christmas and Hanukkah by spending too much money. Parents need to be the voice of reason and say "no" to unreasonable requests.

The best gifts are not necessarily expensive, but something that is meaningful that will enhance the quality of the child's life. In our family we posted a wish list. We wrote on the list everything that we wanted with the most important thing at the top. If the desired gift was an expensive item then two or more family members would go in together to share the expense. These lists took a lot of the guess work out of shopping for other family members.

On the other hand, many families don't have money to pay for Christmas presents at all. I suggest that you have everyone write his or her name on a slip of paper and put it in a hat. Each person in the family draws another family member's name. It is their job to think of something that person would enjoy, such as a poem, a drawing, a heartfelt letter, or something delicious to eat. 

A wonderful gift simply doesn't have to be expensive. 

Wishing your and your families a joyous Holiday Season and a Happy New Year!

Sincerely,

Jayne A. Major, Ph.D.
Major Family Services 

Comment and video from Dave

Here is a video of my experience with spousal abuse and parental alienation. I was married to someone who I knew had a high-conflict personality, but I was completely blindsided by what happened during our divorce. I hope others will learn from my experience and will take measures to protect their children before it's too late. Any feedback is appreciated. Thanks.

Warning, strong language.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJDsruc-xxg

Hi Dave,

Thanks for adding your comment. I am very sorry for your loss and understand your pain in what you have and will continue to suffer through. To lose a child (that you love and kissed goodnight) or children is worse than death. It is worse because as your video points out, the children suffer for the rest of their lives and perhaps beyond that with their own family. Seeing the change in behavior (school grades, attendance, friends and attitude) is very hard to deal with (like seeing them in hell and not being able to save them). It is easy to blame yourself for the PA as you ask yourself what could or should I have done different to stop what happened. I have not found anything that would have prevented what happened in my case. Some people are programmed to deal with self image issues by attacking others as a way to elevate their position. This has always been a fact and always will be. Thus the speaking poorly of you in front of the children. If this was not her or their goal, they would never subject the children they love to such a argument. Any disagreement could and should be discussed in private. When it is done in front of children, it is for a duel purpose.

To remarry, before or after your big (D) is a direct threat to your ex spouse. She does not want you but she doesn’t want anyone else to have you! (she does not want the children to see you wanted and loved by someone else either, because she has told the children how bad you are, so to see another woman in love with you, treating you with respect… would cast doubt on what she has been saying) You are also a low life un trusting abusing pig, until she needs you to take the kids for a weekend she has planed, then you are ok…

Search for (jealousy, the root of all evil)

If you find a way to stop or reverse PAS, please let me know!

The only thing I can see changing is the court system and how they deal with high conflict situations. I think they need a full and personal investigation before placing children or setting parenting times. Just as in your case, the truth came out but much to late to help your family.

I hope your children will see the truth in time and although they may have lost their childhood, perhaps they can safe their own adulthood.

Good luck to you

Help in Yakima family court

I felt it very important, to not only post the comment below Lani-Kai Swanhart, an unfit Commissioner but to add it to the blog pages. It seems there is help in Yakima and if you are in family court there, I would encourage you to contact the number below. You will need to do your investigation and use your best judgment when contacting the number below. I cannot recommend anyone that I personally don’t know. Still, I think it would be worth your time visit with the person below;

I am a GAL in the Yakima court system but I also work with a parent who is representing him/herself to gain custody or increased visitation. I provide advocacy and case management.

I have and M.S.S.W. from Columbia University and years of experience working with children and families in the family court system.

Since only 28% of the father's in Yakima County have 50 percent custody of their children, advocacy and case management are critical to increasing the father's involvement with the child. Counties on the western side of the state have upwards of 65% of the fathers who have 50% custody of their child.

I am easily able to challenge court custody investigators or GALs who often lack the experience I hold.

Parental alienation is an extremely important issue and judges must be reminded how damaging it is for the kids. 509-312-9850

Reply to Anonymous comment on Jealousy, the root of all Evil posted on March 29th 2010

Below is the comment;

Have you bothered to read your own blog? Children have one mother, and I am sure this mother was doing just fine with her kids until this new lady shows up and wants to be mom all of a sudden. It is fine to come in and love your new spouses children and be a good role model for them, but it is never ok to come in and be their "mom" for they already have one. You mentioned in your blog numerous times what a great "mom" your new wife is to your boys. Their real and only mom is not replaceable because you dont like her. I have the same problem with my childs stepmother. I am a great and loving mom. I got along just fine with my ex and we were able to co-parent together until his new wife came along. She wants to be mom now and wants me out of the picture. It is very damaging to a child when a new person comes along and thinks they are a replacement for their own parent and they know best, etc. etc. Step parents often try to force themselves into the parenting role and try to force the real parent out to get rid of their competition they feel. VERY SAD!!!

Here is my response;

Well anonymous, You sound like a very troubled woman indeed. It is very apparent from your comment that you, like my ex Linda, suffer from acute jealousy and most likely that stems from somewhere deep in your past. I expect that you have had to deal with low self esteem all your life. That is very unfortunate. It must be very difficult to go through life with a deep envy of others. Perhaps you have a sense of superiority over everyone else and this justifies your actions.  In any case you have my sympathies, yet this does cannot condone your behavior.

Point being you have no idea about the mother, so why the support of the mother and attack on the step mother? (I am sure this mother was doing just fine with her kids until this new lady shows up and wants to be mom all of a sudden)  From the day they were born she (the boys mother) could not handle the responsibility. She did not have to work and therefore had no job. Yet she chose to take a part time job and send the kids to day care because she said “I can’t stand it, they drive me crazy and I need a break from them”. The job only paid the day care fee so she was working for free just to get away from her own children. I understand that she is not alone, many mothers now days take this path. Later she would spend weekends with her friend to get away from me and the boys, leading to her abandoning her family and moving next door to her boyfriend while she was still married. On the week that she had the 4 boys, she would leave them alone and go out on the town with her boy friend. She repeatedly brought men home from the bars and gambling casinos to spend the night. All this on the week she had the boys. A decent mother would have at least stayed home with her sons during her week with them and limit her whoring around on the week the children where gone. You see, you know nothing of this woman. Would you condone such behavior???
I think that is why we see such a decline in our society. I firmly believe the most important responsibility a mother can have is to provide a good home environment and Christian instruction for the children. The children should be JOB ONE! Sadly many women put their own self ambitions in front of the kids welfare.

Why do make this statement: “it is never ok to come in and be their "mom" for they already have one”. You are very disturbed! The best thing any ex spouse could hope for is that a new step parent would be a loving caring person. If the children are only spending 1-2 days every couple of weeks with one of the parents then it would be difficult to have the same bond as say those who share time equally. In my case, my new wife was much more of a mother to my children than their own mother ever was. This fact was very plain for everyone see, even to my ex. This led to her jealousy, rage, attacks and in 2 of the 4 cases, successful alienation of the children from my new wife and myself!

You show a much to common mental condition when you make this statement: . “Their real and only mom is not replaceable because you dont like her.”

The “real” mom was never replaced nor was she ever spoken poorly of. Both my wife and me supported the boy’s mother. We even have many letters sent to her asking that she move closer to the boys and school. That would allow her more time with them. She refused our request and said she would not move to little Tijuana, insinuating that there were to many Mexicans where we lived. It seems it was fine for the boys to go to school there but she was not going to live there. If you wish, I can post those letters.

You seem to live in a very deranged world. Your statements about the new wife wanting to be the real mother, take control and “get rid of their competition” shows your paranoia. I don’t think it would matter at all who your ex remarried, you would fear any relationship she has with your kids. You seem to know in your heart your weakness as a parent and fear those will be exposed by any other woman. I think you are correct in that regard, any other woman may seem like a more loving and supporting  mother to your children than you. You need to focus on being a good mother and stop obsessing about your exs new wife!

Your accusations about “Step parents often try to force themselves into the parenting role and try to force the real parent out” are certainly unfounded in my case and I see no documentation that your view is supported by professionals in the field.

From your comments I can conclude that you are one of the mothers that would practice parental alienation as a way to stop your children from having a healthy relationship with their step mother and perhaps with the own father.   

In my case, the mother was documented to have an extreme anger problem and indeed was, “the worse case or parental alienation I have seen” by a doctor in the this field that spent time with her in his office.

I feel very sorry for your children, your ex and his wife. You must be a horrible person to try and co parent with.

For the sake of your children and that of your grandchildren, I hope you seek professional help.